Movie buff or not, if you’ve seen the movie ‘Taken‘ you know this quote – ‘I don’t know who you are. I don’t know what you want. If you are looking for ransom, I can tell you I don’t have money. But what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you.’
Over the weekend, Liam Neeson was the guest of honor and final
red green carpet attraction during the 10th Annual Zurich Film Festival. I was excited to go. I had picked up my press pass earlier in the week and gotten into a bit of a tiff with the young woman behind the press booth who clearly didn’t like me. As I walked toward the green carpet to snap some pics Friday night, I noticed her giving me the stink-eye from her counter. I didn’t think much of it until I was approached by a tall blond in a trench coat on the green carpet. She was on a mission…
But first, here’s Liam and the two founders of the Zurich Film Festival – the dapper Karl Spoerri and the gorgeous, statuesque Nadja Schildknecht who had the vision for the ZFF over a decade ago. Now it’s the über fancy, no-expense-spared success it is today. She’s an impressive entrepreneur too, check out this article. Now, back to the CATFIGHT.
A PR woman in the trench coat pointed to me in the little press crowd and said, ‘Hi, who are you here representing? I need to see your pass.’ I showed her press pass immediately. Granted, I know I wouldn’t be given access to a Hollywood movie premiere and I’m not with the Associated Press or a major news source, but this is Zurich. Zurich is small, super expensive and there aren’t exactly hoards of reporters here so my press pass was easily approved a month ago. She went on, ‘You’re actually just a blogger, so I just can’t have you here…’ Gulp, was I being kicked off the green carpet?
I instantly felt a lump of humiliation in my throat and thought, ‘Oh no, this is so embarrassing, should I just go?,’ but decided to argue a bit first. After a couple minutes, she didn’t want to deal with me and walked away saying, ‘I’ll be back.’
Five minutes later, another woman approached me in a leather jacket and said, ‘You’re not on my list and you’re just a blogger, so I need you to leave.’ Ugh, another one. Round 2. What should I do? What would Liam do? What would you do? What would TMZ do? I spun around, whipped out my iphone and said, ‘Look, I’d like to talk to your manager and I’m going to record how you’re talking to me,’ then I pressed the red button. She looked very uncomfortable and was gone within 60 seconds.
Finally, after snapping my pics and VINE, Liam walked off the mean, green, carpet scene toward the crowd of adoring fans waiting to see him. A final supervisor approached me and said, ‘I just want to say that you actually shouldn’t have been here because you’re just a blogger…‘ Round 3.
I’d had enough, so I just blurted it out the woman’s name behind the ticket booth who I knew had called the pack of PR women. She looked surprised and admitted she was called by the woman and saw I was visibly upset. She apologized immediately and said the ‘mean girl’ was a temp worker and was embarrassed by her actions. I thanked her and took off for some Mövenpick (my favorite ice-cream in the world) to ease my hurt feelings.
As we walked away, I looked over at my husband who’d never been approached by the 3 women, except one who asked politely, ‘Will you be needing an interview with Liam Neeson?’ And the whole time, he stood there with his ‘press credential’ lanyard around his neck printed with his name and title, ‘Photographer for SavvySpice.com.’ I’d had my slice of humble pie and now it was time for a big, fat, scoop of Macadamia dulce de leche ice-cream.
Although the green carpet wolvettes put a bit of a damper on my night out in Zurich, I learned a valuable lesson. It doesn’t matter who or where you are – maybe you work in the corporate world, in a restaurant, as a teacher, maybe you’re a small time blogger from San Francisco, a mom in the park, or even Oprah – you will run into situations when you need to deal with ‘mean girls’ who will treat you poorly.
Here’s 3 Important Tips to Deal with ‘Mean Girls’ in Life-
1. If a gatekeeper is rude to you, maintain your composure and try to be nice. You never know the lengths she will go to make life harder for you. You remember the Seinfeld and Sex and the City episodes where this happened to Elaine & Samantha.
2. Always judge a situation and your safety of course, but if you’re being treated unfairly or being disrespected, never be embarrassed or afraid to stick up for yourself.
3. Get names and take numbers. If you’re being treated like garbage, especially by customer service, get the person’s name or business card so you look more credible if you need to escalate it to someone in charge.
Have you ever had a ‘mean girl’ in life or at work who just didn’t like you, and what ‘particular set of skills’ would you recommend to deal with the situation?
Hope you had a great weekend and I have a Big Giveaway Coming this Wednesday!