Sip, sip. Smile, smile. Giggle, giggle. Ahhh, the flirtatious sound effects of a perfect coffee date. One of the most common first date scenarios is grabbing a drink or coffee (which I highly recommend.) It’s during the day, rather than midnight in a bar; plus you’re totally sober and should be able to judge within the first 15 minutes if there’s potential beyond the fluff, froth and drizzled caramel.
The day after we met in San Francisco, Jakob (my now husband), and I had our first coffee date. It was 3 pm and sunny at my favorite spot in SOMA for mediocre coffee, terrible service and amazing ambiance – The Creamery. I had butterflies in my stomach and it wasn’t from my mid-morning Red Bull. A casual first date can still be super nerve-racking. Here’s my top 5 Coffee date tips including whether you should gulp and run or give it a chance beyond the Cappuccino…
1. Avoid the Coffee Shop Cliché - Never meet at Starbucks or any major coffee chain. It takes the charm, cuteness and creativity out of a first date. Look for a spot with a great roast selection with a private spot to sit comfortably or in an eclectic neighborhood. Also, if you’d rather have a tea or a glass of fresh OJ – go for it.
2. Make it a No Phone Zone – The easiest way to do this is by putting your phone out-of-sight. How many times do you see people leave their phone on the table and although they don’t touch it, they’re constant looking down for incoming notifications. Avoid that and see if your date follows. PS – If you haven’t seen this Youtube video ‘I Forgot My Phone’ that went viral, it’s worth a view.
3. Prevent this ‘First Date’ Embarrassment - Back to that first date at the Creamery in Nov. ’12. I was working at my old job and decided to eat lunch at my desk so I could take the 3 pm date. I ate fast – Safeway Mac-N-Cheese with pepper on top for added flavor. Then I ran out to meet him and within the first 5 minutes smiling away, he said awkwardly, ‘Uh, you have black stuff in your teeth.’ Hence, always keep a small mirrored compact, mints, and lipgloss in your purse.
4. Trust Your Instincts - If you’ve ever been in a bad relationship, there were probably red flags during those first few dates. If something seems off, shady or there’s just no chemistry – consider it practice and cut it off not a latte later.
5. It’s Not a Job Interview - Don’t ask too many serious questions about each other’s personal life, job, and avoid digging too deep into any topic. It’s just coffee after all – have fun! Thanks for reading. <Post Details -Location: Dolder Grand Hotel – Zurich Switzerland – Part I of this post here>
What do you think about coffee as a good first date? Any advice of your own…
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