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The Coffee Date – Do’s, Don’ts & Decaf

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Sip, sip. Smile, smile. Giggle, giggle. Ahhh, the flirtatious sound effects of a perfect coffee date. One of the most common first date scenarios is grabbing a drink or coffee (which I highly recommend.) It’s during the day, rather than midnight in a bar; plus you’re totally sober and should be able to judge within the first 15 minutes if there’s potential beyond the fluff, froth and drizzled caramel.

The day after we met in San Francisco, Jakob (my now husband), and I had our first coffee date. It was 3 pm and sunny at my favorite spot in SOMA for mediocre coffee, terrible service and amazing ambiance – The Creamery. I had butterflies in my stomach and it wasn’t from my mid-morning Red Bull. A casual first date can still be super nerve-racking. Here’s my top 5 Coffee date tips including whether you should gulp and run or give it a chance beyond the Cappuccino… 

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1. Avoid the Coffee Shop Cliché - Never meet at Starbucks or any major coffee chain. It takes the charm, cuteness and creativity out of a first date. Look for a spot with a great roast selection with a private spot to sit comfortably or in an eclectic neighborhood. Also, if you’d rather have a tea or a glass of fresh OJ – go for it. 

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2. Make it a No Phone Zone - The easiest way to do this is by putting your phone out-of-sight. How many times do you see people leave their phone on the table and although they don’t touch it, they’re constant looking down for incoming notifications. Avoid that and see if your date follows. PS – If you haven’t seen this Youtube video ‘I Forgot My Phone’ that went viral, it’s worth a view.

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3. Prevent this ‘First Date’ Embarrassment -  Back to that first date at the Creamery in Nov. ’12. I was working at my old job and decided to eat lunch at my desk so I could take the 3 pm date. I ate fast – Safeway Mac-N-Cheese with pepper on top for added flavor. Then I ran out to meet him and within the first 5 minutes smiling away, he said awkwardly, ‘Uh, you have black stuff in your teeth.’ Hence, always keep a small mirrored compact, mints, and lipgloss in your purse.

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4. Trust Your Instincts - If you’ve ever been in a bad relationship, there were probably red flags during those first few dates. If something seems off, shady or there’s just no chemistry – consider it practice and cut it off not a latte later.

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5. It’s Not a Job Interview - Don’t ask too many serious questions about each other’s personal life, job, and avoid digging too deep into any topic. It’s just coffee after all – have fun! Thanks for reading. <Post Details -Location: Dolder Grand Hotel – Zurich Switzerland – Part I of this post here>

What do you think about coffee as a good first date? Any advice of your own…

- xoDale

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  • http://lettersfromlaunna.blogspot.com Launna

    I know this sounds strange… I don’t like coffee… but I loved the story about meeting your husband that way and about the butterflies… how sweet… :) Have a wonderful weekend <3

  • http://www.lattesandlipstick.com/ Tanisha Shulamit

    Great advice for a first date. bottom line, be in tune and have a blast!

  • http://www.4aroundthetable.com Leslie

    Hi Dale,

    Loved this post and such wonderful advice:) I agree. Meeting at a coffee house (for tea, coffee, or anything without the alcohol;) is a good choice. Keeping in casual and not too much like a job interview is a good idea too!

    xxleslie

  • Whitney @ To Live & Diet in L.A.

    He still married you, even after the black stuff in your teeth…that’s love baby :) Haha!

    I think coffee dates are a great idea for getting to know someone. Meeting for dinner or drinks and throwing alcohol into the mix clouds your judgement and emotions. You want to put your best foot forward on a first date and drinking can definitely jeopardize that!

  • http://easyoutfitsbypip.blogspot.com Pip

    Hi Dale,
    Omg, I definitely met someone at Starbucks once, only because I wanted to meet during daylight hours and somewhere in case the person wasn’t a serial killer. LOL! Great post as always and hope the New Year is going well so far!
    xx Easy Outfits, by Pip

  • Bee

    Cute story!! I am also soooo happy that something has changed in your blog formatting that I can now see the full screen on my iPad!!

  • http://www.lushtoblush.com Megan @ Lush to Blush

    These are are really great tips! I think coffee is a perfect first date. :)

    xo Megan, Lush to Blush

  • http://www.averysweetblog.com/ Kim of A Very Sweet Blog

    This is excellent advice Dale! LOVE your outfit and top bun. You look so pretty doll.
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

  • http://www.capturingitaly.blogspot.com Rachel

    I SO agree – this is great Dale! I love #1. It adds so much charm to go somewhere different than a chain. The only thing is I might like to go to an upscale wine bar or something (def not a dive bar) because a sip of wine will calm my 1st date nerves! ;) Luckily I’m married too so not to worry anymore! :):)

    Great post!!
    xo
    Rachel

  • http://thedaintydollshouse.blogspot.co.uk/ The Dainty Dolls House

    This is fab doll, super great tips. I agree about finding a place out of the way, so it’s more chilled!! I hope you have a gorgeous week :) xx

  • http://www.sunnydaystarrynight.com Tracy

    These are really great tips. Especially the one about avoiding Starbucks. I think getting coffee is a great first date.

  • http://www.thefashionpalate.com Franci G.

    This post was SO cute! Love your tips and the pics!

    xo-Franci
    http://www.TheFashionPalate.com

  • http://petiteinpearls.blogspot.com Lauren

    Great tips!

    xx
    Lauren Elizabeth
    Petite in Pearls

  • http://www.daringcoco.com Sonia

    Hehehe black stuff in your teeth! Oh no! That is my biggest fear! At least he was sweet enough to point it out. I hate when people say nothing and you sit about making an even bigger fool of yourself. I agree with you on the first 15 minute thing. First impressions count and you can always tell how compatible you are with someone by that impression. I wish I had paid attention to my intuition on my ex. Would have saved me 4 years of my life! Hahaha!

    SDMxx
    http://www.daringcoco.com

  • http://justaddcakeuk.blogspot.co.uk/ Bella

    Great post!

    JUSTADDCAKE

  • Kristi

    awww, I love this story plus some great advice… You are adorable,
    xx,
    Kristi
    http://www.currentlycrushing.com

  • SlyB

    After coffee mint and water is a big save. ;-)

  • Lu

    Wise tips! I’m sure you looked fantastic on the day you had your first date with your husband. You look beautiful and chic in these pictures.

    http://thefashioness.com/

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