I thought about this concept when I was shopping last week and saw a group of three friends in their 20’s at Forever 21. One of them popped out of her fitting room wearing shorts (without heels) similar to the these in the pic I found below. Let me mention, this was a small, petite girl, just a smidge taller than Snookie.
She looked at her two friends who peaked their heads out from their changing rooms and asked,
“What do you think of these shorts, are they cute on me? I feel like they might be too boyish.”
“Oh no, those shorts are totally cute,” one friend replied.
“Yea, they look good. They’re flattering,” the other girl lied.
I walked into my fitting room and was annoyed this girl’s “friends” weren’t telling her the truth. Not only were these shorts wrong for her body, they weren’t flattering or cute at all. I was so close to saying something to her about trying a different style, but then I caught a glimpse of my reflection after spinning class and my makeup was smeared, my ponytail was looking crazy and I was in gym clothes so I knew there was no way they’d take my advice.
She would have been much better off with her small frame in a shorter denim pair like these below from F21 with wedges or heels to elongate her legs.
Why wouldn’t her friends tell her the truth? Apparently it’s more common than I thought. Did you know there are popular fashion websites now like “Fashism.com” and “GoTryItOn.com” where you can bypass your friends and family (especially if you don’t trust their fashion opinion) and upload a pic of your outfit asking total strangers who visit the site to vote whether they “like” or “hate” your outfit?
And now I’d like to introduce you to just a couple of my friends with “fashion benefits” who I can always count on to give me great style tips.
|Here she is in a Burberry trench, leopard scarf and Seven skinny jeans.
Reminds me of this trench Blake Lively wore recently.
|Shirt- Joey, Watch-Michael Kors. And the purse is Gucci (Little Miss Fancy Pants|
|Oh yea, she bought some Tory Burch flats that day.|
“Oh, those shoes are so cute, I want to get a pair,” I said as Laura revealed her new purchase.
“Yea, you definitely should, these are perfect for work too,” she replied.
Before I could get too excited about buying a pair of my own, her fashionisto fiance, Sean, chimed in, “Those Tory Burch shoes have been around so long, for years!”
Yea, Laura and I both knew that. The point is a real friend doesn’t care if her friend copies her look and buys the same dress, jeans, shoes or purse. (As long as she doesn’t wear it to the same event)
NEXT Friend: Gigi
We have so much fun shopping together in Southern California a few times each year and if we both find the same dress and like it, we buy it. For example, last year, we both bought the same dress below:
Sorry to bore any guys reading this. From what I hear they don’t really share clothes, especially shoes, as much as women do. But, I think these are the three most important qualities to know if you have a friend or a friend with “fashion” benefits:
1. You can always count on the person to tell you the truth whether you look great or should change.
2. You can loan each other clothes with the expectation they’ll be taken care of and returned. But also with
the understanding that drinks spill, dry-cleaning gets lost, etc. so don’t loan out family heirlooms.
3. A true friend genuinely wants you to look your best and doesn’t care if you copy her style.
Can you think of any other qualities?
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